Give a blow job you BOTH enjoy 💫

*Abigail is a fictional character designed to help you enjoy the read and make things feel less like a lesson and more like a chat with your Gfs.

Abigail is a self proclaimed frigid - novice in bed but eager to learn some new ways to enjoy sex, please herself and her hubby. 

This is her story 📖

Abigail is a happily married woman, she loves her hubby and they have a great relationship (for the most part) - buttttt she lacks confidence in the bedroom, she doesn’t like to initiate because that’s scary and feels a lot like she missed the boat when it come’s to learning the sex tricks.

It’s becoming a problem in her relationship because she doesn’t initiate and feels obligated to sleep with her hubby to “keep him happy” and to “stop him from seeking it elsewhere”.

One day - Abigail sought the professional assistance of renowned Sex Coach Courtney Nolan, that was the beginning of a beautiful awakening. Courtney opened Abigail's eyes to the way she can approach sex within her relationship, within her own mind and also helped her see how giving a blowie isn’t a degrading act like she had previously thought.

This is a quick summary of the tips Courtney Nolan discussed with Abigail to help boost her confidence to please herself (and her man) specifically within the realm of fellatio (Oral, BJ, Gobbie - you might know it as these other names).

Because you see, Abi's husband loved giving her oral and relished in the honour it was - Abigail realllllyyy wanted to get to a point where she too looked forward to this act instead of feeling like she wasn’t good enough or like she was just a novice.

COLD HANDS are a massive false start, so warm them up first.

These are the tips Abigail noted down through sessions with Courtney Nolan:

Explore and Engage with Enthusiasm: Use tongue to explore the entire length of his penis and testicles, focusing on sensitive spots like the frenulum. Show enthusiasm through eye contact, noises, and being totally present. Your mood and enthusiasm is EVERYTHING. If you’re not keen don’t do it. I’m not saying be a peppy cheerleader because if that’s not how you actually are it would be annoying AF and off putting.


Incorporate Hands with Intention: Combine hand movements with oral stimulation, using a gentle twisting motion and adjusting your grip's firmness based on feedback. Keep lubrication in mind for smoother action. Don’t use a death grip, so firm you’ll cut off blood flow - unless you’ve spoken about this first and he likes it. 😉


Tease with Edging: Practice edging by bringing him close to ejaculation, then slowing down to prolong the experience, enhancing pleasure and anticipation. Again - this might be a massive winner or a hell no! So discuss preferences first, what he might like to explore/try and what is not a fun time.


Communicate Comfort and Boundaries: Discuss comfort levels and preferences beforehand, especially when incorporating deep throat, anal play, or other new techniques. Open communication is key and I say this alllllll the time.


Inject Playfulness and Creativity: Add spontaneity and variety with sexy outfits, taking the lead, or experimenting with new locations, making the experience more exciting and enjoyable for both of you!

Instead of seeing this as a degrading act, Abigail was able to shift her mindset to that of honouring her man, pleasuring him and enjoying intimacy together.

Abigail now initiates bjs on the reg and is feeling more connected to her hubby than ever before.

WHAT A WIN!

x Courtney