The infamous/famous ick …

The infamous/famous ick …

 

Let’s chat about it in the context of dating, by dictionary definition it means:

 

😰 “used to express disgust at something unpleasant or offensive”

 

 

BUT what is it and how can you get it?!

 

People can get it from all sorts of things - but I wanna chat about the sorts of things your ideal person WON’T get it from.

 

Being up front & honest.

 

 

IF YOUR DATE gets the ick from these questions they aren’t the person for you. Sounds savage 🔪 but honestly it’s true.

 

 

3 areas I don’t see a lot of people change their minds about ———

 

 

👶🏼 Wanting kids

💍 Wanting to get married

⚡️ Certain life goals

 

 

Asking about these things upfront and sooner rather than later is your best foundation for a happy relationship. Sure sometimes these things can change but more often than not, deep down you know your answer to whether or not you want to have children, get married and if you have life goals that make your heart sing and you know you want to achieve.

 

I’m not saying dump all your baggage on your new bf/gf and be rigid about what you want - I’m saying be upfront about the things you want. It might be a dealbreaker, but if it is then this person isn’t meant for you.

 

The whole .. “They will change their mind and want kids when they see our friends doing it….” Ehhh thats not a healthy attitude to have.

 

 

Be upfront. Set a foundation of honesty and build the trust you need to develop healthy relationships.