3 Simple Strategies for When Your Love Language Clashes

Your partner needs a hug to feel connected but your love language is “GIVE ME MY SPACE” …

 

 

You have ASD & feel sensory overwhelm wayyyy quicker than your partner, their love language is physical touch 🫠 are you doomed or can things work..? READ THIS

 

 

Try this - when things are neutral (neither of you feel overwhelmed or agitated about anything, you’re connected & feel supported by each other), have a convo about it.

 

1️⃣/ make a list of alternatives what you could both be comfy with, eg sitting on the couch together with your legs touching, eye gazing, holding hands..

 

2️⃣/ be vocal about how it makes you feel - “I know you want touch right now to feel connected but I’m feeling touched out so can’t do that just yet” or “I appreciate you, I see you - my body just doesn’t want to be touched right now”

 

3️⃣/ find your middle ground - instead of the all or nothing approach try settling somewhere in the middle where you both feel your needs honoured & upheld. It could be that you need 10 minutes of not being spoken to, or a walk on your own or a shower by yourself or an uninterrupted coffee.. Find the thing that helps you decompress & work together to achieve it.

 

It's possible to connect, you just need to out the effort in to discovering how your partner wants to experience love..

 

"How can I love you better?"

 

xCourtney